Asset-building Tips for All Parents

The first step in becoming an asset-building parent is to pay more attention to the things your children need to grow up healthy. Some ideas to help you get started:

Reflect on and celebrate your strengths as a parent and as a family. We all face challenges and draw from different sources of strength to get through, so be proud of them.

  • Talk about the values, boundaries and expectations you wish to pass on to your children.
  • Nurture your own assets. Spend time with supportive people, use your time wisely and strive to model your own values in your life.
  • Regularly do things with your child, including projects where you live, recreational activities and service projects. From time to time let your child or teenager choose which activities to do together as a family.
  • Introduce your children to other caring adults in your neighborhood, workplace, social network or faith community. Let other caring adults know you’d like them to get to know your child or teen because it’s important that kids have as much support from others as possible.
  • Try to eat together as a family as often as possible. The more you can do this, the better for everyone.
  • Choose a service project to do together, such as collecting cans for a food drive.
  • Find other parents to connect with and learn from. Talk about both the joys and challenges of being a parent. Make a point of saying something positive about yourself and your child or teen.
  •  If you have concerns about your own (or your partner’s) parenting, anger or violence within your family, seek counsel from a trusted professional such as a counselor, religious leader or doctor.
  •  Be a friend and asset builder for the friends of your children. Welcome them into your home. Look for the good things in them and be sure to point them out.

Give yourself permission to be “good enough.” Nobody’s perfect and that’s okay.

Take a deep breath now and then and remind yourself you’re doing the best you can.